So many guys do need help. Some men need that sort of thing just the way some of us women need fashion advice or cooking tips. It means a lot to us humans. We value it, we savor it and we want it. We want to be loved and want to love. By Lesli White Shuttterstock. But it is also good to know how things are progressing in your relationship because it helps you figure out what you want in a relationship. Your mind and your heart may be in the wonderful first stage of being in love. But how can you be sure? Sometimes it can be helpful to wait for some time to pass to see whether the strength of your feelings has staying power.